I am totally bummed. Does everyone have problems with their in-laws?
I was asked a question on a site that had me thinking. "Do you like your in-laws?", it was a fair question. I wasn't sure how to answer. I have some of the same issued with my family, but not quite as bad, but...
I feel completely left out of my husbands family. When there is something going on, I get an e-mail in a mailbox that I really don't check that often. I have let them know to send it to the other, but nobody seems to care.
We have talked about moving to another state, like seriously moving! We have been told that it is horrible to not have family around you! Nobody recognizes that we are IN-state, so why would anyone care if we moved to the other side of the country?
I thought that if I started a blogpage (private) for the family, they would be excited. I think that we could be closer and more involved in each other's lives. We'll see how that turns out.
We usually don't get invited to anything in the family, we just find out how much fun they had afterward.
For Mother's Day, Curt called his mom and she told him to call back later, because they are having dinner, but when "sister" calls, she drops everything including dinner to talk to her for an hour or so.
Some of HIS siblings live in town and we never see them, talk to them and we are made to feel unwelcome to share in any part of their lives. I talk/email his sister that lives in Utah more than I see/talk/email anyone else.
Curt has quit asking his mother for advice, because everytime, he gets a "pray about it", like he already hasn't, it probably doesn't apply and she doesn't really care about whatever he is talking about. He says that he used to love talking to his mom and lately he feels as though there is nothing to say.
I really don't think things are supposed to happen like this, is it? Is there something that we are missing out on? Are we really that bad?
Crazy Life and Lovin' it!
13 years ago
2 comments:
Shellee- tell them how you feel, don't let them respond, you'll get "We don't treat you that way." crap. Tell them how you fell then leave or hang up. It might not do you any good, but you will feel better.
I understand this completely. Decker's parents are both deceased (I only met his mother, his father passed away before Decker and I met). Decker's siblings, though, let's just say they've been interesting.
There are some I absolutely adore and want to spend more time with. There are others, though, with whom I'm wondering how I'm going to handle spending eternity with these people. One has called me while drunk (I'll give you 3 guesses as to whom it was and the first 2 don't count).
Then there is another who is completely judgmental about everyone, including me. She's another one who is into the "clique" thing. She called my cell phone, and not realizing I had my phone off and charging, she had this conversation totally slamming me. As I had the phone charging, the voice mail had already turned on, so I got to hear every juicy detail. I've never told this sibling this had happened, but at least I know in whom I cannot trust.
Now all of them have grown kids and are enjoying grandkids - except me. They are now all having their own family reunions with their children and grandchildren - except me.
This is why I don't feel I fit in anywhere and I'd rather stay home than be the oddball everyone is just being "nice" to in inviting me somewhere.
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