I really hope that a lot of people know who Pollyanna is. I love Hayley Mills as Pollyanna. If you haven't seen the movie, you must leave your computer and rent it right NOW! I have been accused of having a "Pollyanna Complex" because I like to look at the positive parts of a trial rather than focus on the things that are sad, hard and out of my hands.
One of my surgeries was a blighted ovum (a baby that never formed) and so rather than think of the child that wasn't to be, I thought of the great marvels of anesthesia and the fact that I could take a 3 hour vacation from the cares of the world and everyone would worry about me (that was selfish, I know) and the wonders of Heavenly Father that he would bless me with the knowledge that I could still get pregnant without infertility treatments, he was just letting me know that my "girlie parts" still work. I think that my trials have made me stronger in someway, but because of the way I look at them, I have a hard time understanding how others tackle the same problem. There is a definate difference in understanding someone elses trials (I HATE when people say that they "understand" my burdens) and being understanding and compassionate.
My sis in law's mother just passed away, and I think that to say to her that I "understand" what she is going through is a lie, I can't! My mom is alive and kicking and a 15 minute drive away! I can tell her that I really liked her mom and she was awesome to be around, she always had a smile on her face and was a great attitude! What an example to those around her. Right now may be hard, but think of the day when you get to see her again after such a long vacation! Heavenly Father doesn't leave his children stranded, that's where families and the Holy Ghost come in. All you have to do is ask for comfort from them, and WHAM! it's there! Trials... I take comfort in mine, for they are and always will be part of who I am.
Crazy Life and Lovin' it!
13 years ago
2 comments:
The "understanding" part is what makes my trials worse. There is nothing that I hate more then "I understand", when you know they have no clue. When someone really understands they tell you how they felt in your situation. The twins being in the hospital for 2 1/2 weeks killed me, but no one really understood. Tell people how you felt it makes them feel better when they know they are Really Not Alone.
I agree. You hear "I understand" from someone you know doesn't, and it doesn't really help. But as devil's advocate, at least they're trying to comfort you. It's hard to comfort someone you love when you don't know what they're going through. We just need to find different words that can help ease the pain. BTW- I love this blog, it'll be fun to learn your colors!
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